Comments on: Thought of the day http://kazzart.net/blog/2007/12/06/thought-of-the-day/ A glimpse into the life and mind of Kazzart Sun, 17 Jul 2011 10:23:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Maria http://kazzart.net/blog/2007/12/06/thought-of-the-day/comment-page-1/#comment-1729 Maria Sun, 06 Jan 2008 09:55:44 +0000 http://kazzart.net/blog/2007/12/06/thought-of-the-day/#comment-1729 I can relate. Very much. I've learned to be myself and assertive.. but not on every occasion.. I have ways to go yet.. Eg. Boiling an egg in my mother-in-law's house.. she produces an egg-timer (I don't use them)..and then tells me when to take the egg off the stove, so I do.. even though I KNOW the egg is not how I want it.. I just fume..and get stressed. I guess because when I've stood up for myself and been assertive.. people who have known me to be too-easy-going then get highly offended and relationships fracture.. Seriously... I'm talking people go from loving me to hating me. I know it reflects on who they are because if people really cared/loved me.. then they would be secure in themselves..and know me well enough to know I'm not freezing them out.. or being bitchy. It's a tough one.. It's fantastic to have people in your life who you can be honest with and they have your best interests at heart..and don't try to impose their way of living on you.. and try to manipulate you. Like you, many times in life I've ended up stressed and just hating a person because I have spent years, literally.. being everything to them.. and bending and moulding myself to fit in with them.. and not projecting my own personality into the relationship. It's felt like domination.. being dominated. It's when I have become myself that it pisses those people off. So sometimes it's better off without them! I wish you well as you become more assertive and more "you". :-) I can relate. Very much. I’ve learned to be myself and assertive.. but not on every occasion.. I have ways to go yet.. Eg. Boiling an egg in my mother-in-law’s house.. she produces an egg-timer (I don’t use them)..and then tells me when to take the egg off the stove, so I do.. even though I KNOW the egg is not how I want it.. I just fume..and get stressed. I guess because when I’ve stood up for myself and been assertive.. people who have known me to be too-easy-going then get highly offended and relationships fracture.. Seriously… I’m talking people go from loving me to hating me. I know it reflects on who they are because if people really cared/loved me.. then they would be secure in themselves..and know me well enough to know I’m not freezing them out.. or being bitchy.

It’s a tough one.. It’s fantastic to have people in your life who you can be honest with and they have your best interests at heart..and don’t try to impose their way of living on you.. and try to manipulate you.

Like you, many times in life I’ve ended up stressed and just hating a person because I have spent years, literally.. being everything to them.. and bending and moulding myself to fit in with them.. and not projecting my own personality into the relationship. It’s felt like domination.. being dominated. It’s when I have become myself that it pisses those people off. So sometimes it’s better off without them! I wish you well as you become more assertive and more “you”. :-)

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