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To Whom It May Concern

12:11 pm Tue, 27th April 2004

It has been brought to my attention that certain people who have a real life relationship with me (ie. see me on a regular basis), who have been reading my blog, have formed some sort of opinion or judgement based upon what I write. And this seems to have affected the way they view me and relate to me. So I would like to highlight the following excerpt (taken from the bloggers disclaimer).

Do not assume that you know everything there is to know about a writer simply because you read their weblog on a regular basis. Any judgements you make will be based on the information they have provided you about themselves, which is probably vague, incomplete or embellished. Whatever opinion you form on them as people, or their life as a whole, is probably best kept to yourself.

And another appropriate excerpt:

If you have a real life relationship with the writer, remember that communication is very important. View weblogs as online journals, no less sacred than a diary hidden between the mattresses. First of all let them know that you read their site, especially if they did not tell you personally.

Basically it comes to this. If you know me in real life, then I would firstly like to call on your respect for our friendship to stop lurking in the shadows, and announce yourself – either by commenting, or by emailing me. You know my email address. If you are not willing to do this, I politely ask you to stop visiting this website altogether. If you want to know what I’ve been up to, then simply ask me.

Secondly, understand that what I write in this blog is not my whole life. It is not the “revealed Word of Kazzart”. It is merely an excerpt, a glimpse, into certain aspects of my life. And recently (due to certain events in my life) it has become more and more about the outer layer of this onion (think Shrek) – and not much about what’s really going on inside the “mind of Kazzart”.

Thirdly, to put it bluntly, this website was originally not created for my real life friends to read (with a few exceptions). It was created for a select few close trusted friends, and for the blogging community in general (yes, even especially aimed at strangers, from all over the world). Now, I don’t mind if some of you read it, if you are able to withhold judgement and take what I write with a grain of salt. If you cannot help yourself, or find this site unhelpful, then I suggest you stop reading.

Lastly, I realise that this is the internet, and that this site is a publically available page, and therefore I cannot have control over who reads it. But what I am addressing is the issue of friendship, and the respect that one friend should have for another. Particularly if the people claim to be christian.

To everyone else – apologies for the unpleasantness of this post. It had to be done.

Kind regards,
Kazzart

Current listening :: “Come Clean” – Hilary Duff

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  1. 21 Comments on “To Whom It May Concern”

  2. Samuel Yip
    Apr 28, 2004

    Alrite,

    i bet all you punks are to scared to post aye?

    Well im gonna post

    Wussup Karen my homie!

    post it away!

    good stuff

    sam.

  3. blue
    May 3, 2004

    hi kazzart, i don’t know u in real life, i’m just one of those “strangers” that reads ur blog once in a while. i have a blog of my own, and what i write on there is an almost complete different site than what my friends see me as. can’t said i have any problem like urs cause my is not as widely viewed as you, but all sides of me is still me, and if anyone think they knows me just cause of the little thing they see i’ll just solve it by slap them silly. πŸ˜‰

    even if i would know you in real life i’d just be grateful to be able to read what’s on the other side of ur mind, and never assume it’s the whole. no body is perfect. even christians.

  4. tree
    May 3, 2004

    hey Karen,

    Woah! What brought that on??? This is the first time I’ve looked up your blog in a pretty long while.. have been busy for the past month trying to do wedding stuff! Am I allowed to read this then? (becuase I don’t see you that often?) Please let me know if your prefer me not to!

    *breathe deeply*
    Serenity Now!
    πŸ˜‰

  5. Andrew
    May 4, 2004

    Hi there.

    I read your site occasionally because you discuss your con courses (I’m interested in doing the fusion course so am always interested in what you’re doing in them). In fact I found your site as a result of web searching the names people giving courses there.

    The web is, lets face it, effectively a form of broadcast medium. If you write something on this site it’s no different than going on radio and making an opinion: you don’t know who’s listening and they’re going to form opinions on what you say, whether that’s fair or not.

    And I’m fascinated by that blogger’s disclaimer. Why do you have the right to discuss other people without telling them, but if they find out about it they have to tell you they know? Sounds hypocritical to me.

    For example- I found it highly distasteful that you’d print a complete stranger’s picture on your site because you thought he was eyeing you off on the train. That’s not very moral. Or very Christian. I suspect it’s illegal too.

    PS How *is* your course going?

    Andrew

  6. nate
    May 4, 2004

    Andrew – how do morals and posting a pic of someone seedy relate? I don’t think morals should come into play here.

    remember people…people (and ogres) are like onions…they have layers.

  7. Samantha Liu
    May 4, 2004

    How do morals and the posting of someone’s picture relate? Well, Kazart is complaining about mean and nasty people in her blog. Yet she does something mean and nasty by posting someone’s photo on her blog without that person’s permission. And then she goes on about how she is a Christian. It just sounds really hypocritical. Kazzart has some old pictures of herself on her old Geocities site. How would she feel if someone made a “before and after” homepage dedicated to her? I think that Kazzart is simply a VERY sensitive person, which is why she started to work out like crazy after college to improve her self image. I still think that one’s inner being is much more important than the temporary shell that surrounds that being. I’m not sure if Kazzart knows that.

  8. Samantha Liu
    May 4, 2004

    By the way, I FULLY complied with your disclaimer. I provided constructive criticism. Now watch as these entries are mysteriously deleted.

  9. Kazzart
    May 4, 2004

    Blue: Thankyou for your kind comments. I want to make sure u know that this post was not addressing you in any way! It is not about the “strangers” that come across my blog. I am grateful that you actually find my site interesting enough to come back and visit! πŸ™‚

    Tree: Heya! Long time no talk! Isn’t it your turn to reply my email? πŸ˜› Anyways, thanks for commenting…. no this isn’t about you! Feel free to read as much as you want! I know this is a good way for you to keep up with stuff I’m doing.. and that is one of the reasons I write.. for those I don’t see much. I read ur blog for the same reasons. πŸ™‚ As I wrote, the post was about those that I do see on a regular basis.. and about some anonymous feedback I heard, about my blog, from those people. So yeh.. you can breathe easy now. πŸ˜‰

  10. Kazzart
    May 4, 2004

    Andrew: Hrm.. I don’t know you in real life do I? If not. then (to reiterate myself) this post does not really address you. So don’t feel obliged to comment/explain/discuss etc etc. As I said in the post, I appologise that you had to read that unpleasantness.

    To address a few issues you raised, your comparison of a blog with radio… I don’t fully agree.. my view is that a blog is not necessarily the same thing as broadcast radio. For sure, some blogs can be likened to radio.. because that is the purpose of the author of that blog – to discuss issues with others, much like talkback radio. But other (and probably most) blogs that I have encountered are more like a personal journal.. like someone writing in their “diary” about their personal life experiences and thoughts. A place to rant and just unload their thoughts. Perhaps even a place to escape the “real world”. So I suppose when the “real world” starts invading your world, it can be a bit off-putting.. and I’ve seen quite a number of bloggers suddenly take their blog offline because of one reason or another, usually related to this issue I’m addressing.

    To address your 4th paragraph about the bloggers disclaimer. You are perhaps making the assumption that my blog is about “discussing other people”. But if you read through it, you will find that it does not contain much at all about other people, and alot more about myself – the things I do, see and experience. It is a glimpse into some of the more unseen parts of my life… and I think it makes sense that I would want my *friends* to let me know if they read it, if I did not tell them about it. (Respect for friendship and all that.) Does that make sense?

    With regards to the picture of that person I posted.. seems I’m copping quite a number of complaints. I would like to make it clear that I had absolutely no malicious or nasty intent when I posted that picture. It was actually an innocent post, one made in jest, that was meant to be taken lightheartedly. Also I’d like to point out that I DID NOT KNOW that it may actually be an illegal action – to me, it was just another capture of something I saw… like the pictures I take of a crowd of people, of the city buildings, of the street etc. I saw it more as.. I suppose you could say art/photography.. capturing all sorts of things that I see. This is one facet of my blog, as it is with many other peoples blogs.

  11. Kazzart
    May 4, 2004

    Samantha: Criticism? Yes. Constructive? Highly debatable. My previous comment to Andrew addresses some of what you said.

    In addition, I’d also like to address your statement “Well, Kazart is complaining about mean and nasty people in her blog. Yet she does something mean and nasty by posting someone’s photo on her blog without that person’s permission.” I take it you are referring to this post:
    http://kazzart.com/blog/archives/000106.html

    I think you have misunderstood my post there, and have gone ahead and drawn your own conclusions. You are entitled to your opinion, and maybe I shouldn’t care about what you think of me. But maybe I do care too much, or at least enough to bother replying here.

    Let me make a few things clearer – that post was not complaining about “mean and nasty people” on MY blog. The events that lead me to write that post were: observations of other people on other peoples blogs, reading an article in a magazine about rape, and also another persons blog about men and their obsession with women in sexy lingerie. I had no problem at that stage with anyone on my blog.. even the few wierdos I occasionally came across.

    My posting of that photo was not intended to be something that was “mean and nasty”. I am not that kind of person… and I know you don’t know me, so you may not know that. Perhaps to help give you a bit of context, some friends and I have a bit of an in-joke going about such things as “porno glasses”, “mullets” and the whole “I have come to clean zee pool” advertisement. So me posting that photo was sorta playing up to that in-joke, which outsiders, like yourself, may have misunderstood. And maybe it wasn’t the most appropriate of jokes, so perhaps I will take it down. But you know what they say about pointing the finger at others.. have a look at your own life first.

    Also, me talking about being christian was in reference to the whole “feminism” thing. You need to read these things in context.

    To address another statement: “I think that Kazzart is simply a VERY sensitive person, which is why she started to work out like crazy after college to improve her self image.” Again, you are entitled to your opinion. But personally, I would think twice before making sweeping assumptions and judgement calls about someone I have never met. I don’t disagree that I might be a sensitive person. It would explain why I am bothering to answer your comment at all. But to assume that you know why I started working out at all? That could be taking things a little far. Let me address two points. Firstly – I don’t “work out like crazy” – I would hardly call going to the gym 2 to 3 times a week “working out like crazy”. And I believe that this amount of exercise is actually recommended by doctors for personal health and well-being. Secondly, why I started working out after college (actually, I didn’t join the gym until about 2 years into starting work) – one reason is because I now had the money to join a gym. Another reason is because of my dancing – I wanted to improve my physical fitness so that I was able to dance these routines better.. (eg to improve things such as my core abdominal strength in order to make that double turn, or do those axle jumps… or simply so that I wouldn’t get exhausted halfway through the warm ups!) And the last, and probably most important reason, is that I enjoy working out… I enjoy the result of feeling energised, relaxed, fit and healthy. I enjoy being able to run up stairs without huffing. And I enjoy the feeling of wellbeing that exercise gives a person. I actually find myself feeling tired and lacking energy now when I stop exercising.

    Lastly, I do agree with you that the inside counts much more than the outside of a person. But ultimately, I do not place my value in either.. but rather in who I am in God’s eyes. Someone, with all their many imperfections and flaws, He loved enough to die for so that I could have a relationship with Him.

    So to conclude my essay πŸ˜› – please read things a little more carefully before posting. And try not to jump to conclusions about someone you don’t even know. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not offended by your comments… (perhaps a little hurt, but I guess some people in this world are bound to misunderstand, so I should get used to it).. I just wanted to clear up a few misconceptions.

  12. Kazzart
    May 4, 2004

    To add another thing regarding christianity. Am I to assume that neither of you (Andrew and Samantha) are christians? Let me know if I am wrong. Because I would like to clear up another (rather common) misunderstanding about christianity – and that is, christians aren’t perfect, or even “good” people.

    Being a christian doesn’t mean you suddenly become a “goody-two-shoes”, “Ned Flanders” sorta person. A christian is someone who realises that they aren’t perfect, or even good! (Ie They are a “sinner” – which is just someone who has rejected God as the rightful ruler and king of their life – and absolutely everyone has done this). Even more, a christian realises that they can’t ever be good enough for God standards to get into heaven.. and that the reality of not being good enough is that they’ll be judged by God, for all their actions – and they realise that they in fact deserve the just punishment of God, for ignoring Him. But then they hear the good news that they don’t even need to try and be good enough.. coz God has already done it all, by sending Jesus to take the punishment we deserve. So they can have a clean slate before God. And they accept this sacrifice, this gift from God, and acknowledge God as their ruler and live with him in control.

    So this doesn’t mean that everything is rosy and that I am suddenly perfect. I’m just the same as any other person. But what I do know is that I am always forgiven by God for whatever wrong I do, because Jesus has already paid the penalty for me – his death pays for every sin I have ever committed, and every sin I will ever commit in the future. So as a result, in Gods eyes, I am, and will always be, “perfect”. And I have absolutely no doubt that I will go to heaven on that final day.

  13. Sam Yip
    May 5, 2004

    YEh man,
    watever dudes

    luv Sam.

  14. Sam Yip
    May 5, 2004

    Hello ,

    Yeh
    who are you samantha?
    do i know u?
    u got a asian last name?

    u want to go for noodles?

  15. Sam Yip
    May 5, 2004

    Nah kiddding mann

    yeh

    watever man.

    i love this.

    karen is a karen.

    hello

    wussup

    sam is a sam

    mad!

  16. Kazzart
    May 5, 2004

    Hahaha…. hey Sam. πŸ™‚

    Anyways, yeh I’m over it. Whatever! I write what I write, I post what I post… doesn’t matter what people think. They don’t own this domain! πŸ˜›

    Oh yeh, and that Samantha Liu person… if that is actually his/her real name… used to post anonymously on this blog as “Hi”. He/she only ever posted to complain/criticise about one thing or another… seems they have something against me. I deleted most of those posts coz she/he was just being a tool – perhaps they’re feeling a little precious about it now. Beats me why they keep coming back (on a fairly regular basis I might add, usually through a Ricebowl Journals link) if they don’t like me. And they’re from somewhere in the US I believe. So I don’t think you’re gonna have much luck getting him/her to have noodles with ya. πŸ˜›

  17. Samantha Liu
    May 5, 2004

    Well, I wouldn’t describe my posts as “complaints.” I was just pointing out the hypocritical nature of some of your own posts. I’m guessing that you’re describing my posts as complaints because you want to turn yourself into a “victim.” Gosh, you’re really really sensitive! Why even have a disclaimer to your site when you yourself cannot live up to its standards? By the way, I’m impressed by the fact that as the “owner” of kazzart.com, you pay someone else to use that domain name. Well, that’s a Karen world for you — too much computer use and not enough “real” learning.

  18. Samantha Liu
    May 5, 2004

    By the way, Sam, I’d love to meet up with you. If you talk the way you write, I’m going to have some rib-splitting laughs.

  19. Sam
    May 5, 2004

    Yeh this is for you Samantha Liu:

    Yeh you think you’re really smart aye?
    Coming on to this blog making all these so called ‘constructive critisisms’
    You know what?
    I’m a personal friend of Kazzart alrite? I see her nearly 5 times a week.
    However do you know the difference between me and you?
    Its that I come on this site as as one of Karens friends, and I know her personally. However, you are a stranger on this site and you are a stranger to Karen… but yes… Strangers are MOST welcome on this site indeed as karen says… but you are no typical stranger visiting this site, you’re some sort sad case that has nothing to do. You must not have any friends since you probably sit infront of ‘rice journals’ looking at all the different blogs you can have a perve on. Get a life, go look at your own life before you come on criticising other peoples lives.

    Yeh I know Karen ain’t perfect, in fact she is far from it.
    Is it your problem? No.
    So get stuffed.
    Is it my problem that Karens life is not perfect?
    YES becuase i know her and I’m part of her life.
    Wat bout u? (sorry i meant ‘What about you’)
    You’re nothing.
    Youre opinion is worth as much as spit on the ground.
    Regardless if its constructive or not.

    What’s your problem samantha? With your last smart ass comment (btw, you sound like someone with a big ass): “If you talk the way you write, I’m going to have some rib-splitting laughs.” Laugh all you want alrite good for you.
    You think I’m dumb aye?
    Thankyou.
    Trust me I’m smart, i dont need to back that one up.
    I’m smart at making you look like a stooge.

    You must be one of those stuck up asian people who get good grades academically but cant do jack in real life.
    Its great to know that you talk english so well, and type out your vocab better than me…
    thats so great..
    But i betchya have no life skills

    Oh have u picked out any spelling mistakes here in my post?
    if you have please feel free to laugh. Enjoy your ‘rib-splitting’ laughs

    Yeh lets meet up, yeh?
    where u from? are u in Sydney or the USA? or from some dirty shack in mainland China?
    We’ll have a coffee and discuss your problems.

    Laugh all you want.

    bloody stooge.

    Take it easy no hard feelings.

    no need to sit there thinking of a mad come back or another constructive critisism,

    you’re not welcome here.

    simple as that

  20. nate
    May 5, 2004

    kazzart.com is owned by Kaz. so I don’t understand your logic Samantha.
    it’s like all other people with domain names. They pay a domain registry company for that domain name… Is there anything wrong in owning a domain name? I don’t think so.

  21. Sam
    May 5, 2004

    Alrites,

    Thats it
    im over it.

    hey samantha.

    xox

    lets move on.

  22. Andrew
    May 26, 2004

    Hi there.

    A follow up to my previous post (which seemed to have set a few threads off).

    Firstly, rereading that post I realise that, while don’t apologise for wanting to make a critical and confrontational comment, I do apologise for it coming out WAY HARSHER than I wanted it to. So a heartfelt sorry for that.

    You’re right we haven’t met, I think I saw you play at one of those Con concerts though. Again: how are those going? And to say something positive, full marks for having the courage (and skills) to do Nick’s fusion course. I don’t know that I could cut it.

    Thanks for your post which clarifies your stance: I don’t know if I agree, but certainly can agree to disagree (and if I really had a major problem, I should have the courage of my convictions and stop reading, hmm?)

    On other issues: I regard my self as morally Christion (that’s the value set I was raised with) but not spiritually or religiously Christian, if that makes sense. It strikes me that some of JC’s most memorable lines (the moat in your eye, cast the first stone) were messages against the hypocrisy of the religious authorities of the time. Couple that rith a religious school education and a bad Christian group experience when I was younger (sound familiar?) and I decided that faith and beliefs were best worked out on my own and only shared with consenting adults in private.

    I had to laugh at the post which suggested you’d gotten into fitness because of a poor self image. Even assuming it’s true, I figure that if you had a poor self image, excercising would be about the most sensible thing to do.

    Anyway, like I said, sorry for the flame: I suppose the point I wanted to make was: it seems to me that in blogworld one can be as harsh as one likes about oneself, but when dealing with others, the old maxim of If You Can’e Say Something Nice holds. So I’ll try and do that myself next time, hmmm?

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